We did not change as we grew older; we just became more clearly ourselves. - Lynn Hall

I had an acquaintance through work who was very timid and shy, didn't want to create waves.  If you know me or have been reading my blog, you'll know I don't have that problem. 

 

I encouraged her to stand up for herself, to make her feelings known.  Of course, when she did this to me, I became very upset.  How could she talk to ME like that???  I was the one who had encouraged her to have more confidence in herself and to not take crap from people.  But I didn't mean ME.  I meant that she should stand up to other people.

 

The truth is, when we encourage people to change, we don't mean that they should change in the way that they act around us.  We mean that they should change in other ways, with other people.  But they should stay the same for us, because we don't like change. We want them to be the same for us.

 

Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become. Except in cases of necessity, which are rare, leave your friend to learn unpleasant things from his enemies; they are ready enough to tell them.  - Oliver Wendell Holmes

 

I have had people tell me that they think I should tell them more, that I don't share enough of my life with them, that I can be very closed off.  The truth is, when I did share things with them, it clashed with their views of life and that made me look different in their eyes.  They feel judged and I feel judged. 

 

So, now, I am more closed off than ever. I have decided not to share some areas of my life, because frankly, I need to make this journey on my own.  We go through life's most important doors on our own - birth, death.  And we need to go through them on our terms, in our time, without anyone making judgments and trying to influence our emotions.  We need to figure out our own values, morals, feelings.  Other people's get in the way.  Support is only support if it is given in love, without ulterior motive.  Support need not be trying to get someone to think like you; it can just be acceptance of the person as they are.  

 

I may not be a parent, but I do know that parents always want to take the bite out of life for their kids.  The unfortunate part is that, through your love, you are denying them experience and knowledge.  When someone tells you that something is hot and that it hurts, you really don't believe them until you touch it.  It's the same all the way through our lives; we really only learn through our own experiences. 

 

That is what I'm trying to do; I need some experiences to teach me about myself and the world.  I have to go through this door alone.  And no one can protect me.

 

We always do what we MOST WANT to do, whether or not we like what we are doing at each instant of our lives. Wanting and liking many times are not the same thing. Many people have done what they say they didn't want to do at a particular moment. And that may be true until one looks deeper into the motivation behind the doing. What they are really saying is the price they will have to pay or the consequences they will have to endure, for not doing that something may be too high or onerous for them not to do it. Such as going to work. Many people say they don't want to go to work and yet they go. Which means they don't want to risk losing their jobs and the negative hurting emotions associated with not having a job. It has been estimated about 90% to 95% of all people work at jobs which are unfulfilling and which they dislike and would leave in a minute if they only knew what they really wanted to do.  - Sidney Madwed

I want a new drug

Here is the new drug I will begin taking tomorrow to help with my sleep apnea:

Provigil (Modafinil) Oral Uses
Modafinil decreases extreme sleepiness due to narcolepsy and other sleep disorders such as difficult/irregular breathing during sleep (e.g., obstructive sleep apnea/hypopnea syndrome-OSAHS). It is also used to help you stay awake during work hours for people with work schedules that interfere with a normal sleep routine (shift work sleep disorder-SWSD).
It is not known how modafinil works to increase wakefulness. It is thought to work by affecting certain chemicals in the brain that control the sleep/wake cycle. Modafinil does not make up for lack of sleep and should not be used to treat tiredness or hold off sleep in people who do not have a sleep disorder.How to use Provigil Oral
Read the Patient Information Leaflet provided by your pharmacist before your start using modafinil and each time you get a refill. If you have any questions, consult your doctor or pharmacist.
Take this medication by mouth with or without food, usually once daily in the morning or as directed by your doctor. If you are using modafinil for shift work sleep disorder, take this medication 1 hour before you start your work shift or as directed by your doctor. If you are using this for apnea (OSAHS), continue your other current treatment (e.g., CPAP machine) unless your doctor tells you to stop.
Dosage is based on your medical condition and response to therapy. Use this medication exactly as prescribed to get the most benefit from it.
Though it is very unlikely to occur, this medication can result in abnormal drug-seeking behavior (addiction/habit forming). Do not increase your dose, take it more frequently, or use it for a longer period of time than prescribed. Properly stop this medication when so directed. This will lessen the chances of becoming addicted.
Inform your doctor if your condition persists or worsens.

Provigil Oral Side Effects
Headache, nausea, nervousness, anxiety, dizziness, and difficulty sleeping may occur. If any of these effects persist or worsen, notify your doctor or pharmacist promptly.
Remember that your doctor has prescribed this medication because the benefit to you is greater than the risk of side effects. Many people using this medication do not have serious side effects.
Tell your doctor immediately if any of these rare but serious side effects occur: mental/mood changes (e.g., agitation, confusion, depression, abnormal thoughts, hallucinations).
Seek immediate medical attention if any of these rare but very serious side effects occur: chest pain, fast/pounding/irregular heartbeat, signs of infection (e.g., fever, persistent sore throat).
A very serious allergic reaction to this drug is unlikely, but seek immediate medical attention if it occurs. Symptoms of a serious allergic reaction may include: rash, itching, swelling, severe dizziness, trouble breathing.
If you notice other effects not listed above, contact your doctor or pharmacist.

Provigil Oral Precautions
Before taking modafinil, tell your doctor or pharmacist if you are allergic to it; or if you have any other allergies.
This medication should not be used if you have certain medical conditions. Before using this medicine, consult your doctor or pharmacist if you have: certain heart problems (e.g., enlarged heart, mitral valve problem), history of reaction to stimulants (e.g., chest pain, irregular heartbeat).
Before using this medication, tell your doctor or pharmacist your medical history, especially of: high blood pressure, heart problems (e.g., chest pain, heart attack, irregular heartbeat), liver problems, kidney problems, mental/mood problems (e.g., mania, psychosis), personal or family history of regular use/abuse of drugs/alcohol.
Sleep disorders may decrease your ability to react quickly. Though modafinil helps keep you awake, you still may not be able to perform tasks requiring alertness safely (e.g., driving). This drug may also make you dizzy; use caution engaging in activities that require alertness such as driving or using machinery. Avoid alcoholic beverages.
This medication should be used only when clearly needed during pregnancy. Discuss the risks and benefits with your doctor.
It is not known whether this drug passes into breast milk. Consult your doctor before breast-feeding.

Provigil Oral Interactions
Your healthcare professionals (e.g., doctor or pharmacist) may already be aware of any possible drug interactions and may be monitoring you for it. Do not start, stop or change the dosage of any medicine before checking with them first.
Before using this medication, tell your doctor or pharmacist of all prescription and nonprescription/herbal products you may use, especially of: medications for high blood pressure (e.g., beta blockers such as atenolol/metoprolol, clonidine, guanabenz, methyldopa, prazosin), "blood thinners" (e.g., warfarin), street drugs (e.g., methamphetamine, MDMA-"ecstasy"), drugs that affect liver enzymes that remove modafinil from the body (e.g., azole antifungals such as itraconazole/ketoconazole, rifamycins such as rifabutin/rifampin, anti-seizure medications such as carbamazepine/phenobarbital).
Modafinil can speed up or slow down the removal of other drugs from your body by affecting certain liver enzymes. These affected drugs may include certain antidepressants (e.g. TCAs such as clomipramine/desipramine, SSRIs such as fluoxetine, fluvoxamine), cyclosporine, diazepam, phenytoin, propranolol, theophylline, triazolam.
Avoid taking MAO inhibitors (e.g., furazolidone, isocarboxazid, linezolid, moclobemide, phenelzine, procarbazine, selegiline, tranylcypromine) within 2 weeks before, during, and after treatment with modafinil. In some cases a serious (possibly fatal) drug interaction may occur.
This medication may decrease the effectiveness of hormonal birth control (e.g., pills, patch, ring). This can result in pregnancy. You may need to use an additional form of reliable birth control while using this medication and for 1 month after stopping this medication. Consult your doctor or pharmacist for details.
Check the labels on all your medicines (e.g., cough-and-cold products, diet aids) because they may contain ingredients (e.g., pseudoephedrine, ephedra/ma huang) that could increase your heart rate or blood pressure. Ask your pharmacist about the safe use of those products.
Avoid drinking large amounts of beverages containing caffeine (e.g., coffee, tea, cola). Caffeine can increase the side effects of this medication.

Maybe being so tired all the time isn't such a bad thing.....

When fairy tales attack

When you're a little girl, you are raised with fairy tales. Snow White, who is beautiful and pure, just as her name implies, must wait on her prince to save her with a kiss. Cinderella, who is beautiful, and though poor and mistreated, still kind. She, too, must wait for her prince to save her with a kiss. Sleeping Beauty, whose story is much maligned in an erotic book, must wait for her prince to save her with a kiss.

In fairy tales. all girls are beautiful, kind, and find the man of their dreams at the tender age of sixteen. And when this doesn't happen to you, you question what great sin you've committed, as you must have done something wrong to have been denied such happiness. Gave it up too soon? Not pretty enough? Bad personality? Surely, it's something that you've done.

Then you hit your thirties and say, bullshit. I don't need a man for anything. I can do it all on my own. Sure, it would be nice to have the trash taken out by someone else or to have shelves hung up by someone with a penis. But it feels good to be independent.

But those fairy tales are still there. And you start to hate them. You stop reading romance novels, because you know that they're not true. You stop wanting a man to be romantic, because you wonder what his intentions are. Those flowers, they have a hidden meaning. He's done something wrong or he just wants a blow job.

You begin to question whether or not love really exists. Is it possible that we just made it up over time? Atheists (and no, I am not one, I'm agnostic) believe that we made God up to make ourselves feel better; if we can invent a Supreme Being, why not an emotion?

Can love keep us together, as the Captain and Tenille sang ? (BTW, I was in love with the Captain and would sleep with their records.) Maybe love doesn't exist. Maybe, if it does, it's not meant to last. Maybe we're just supposed to enjoy it for the minute that it lasts.

Great choice as a parent!!!

Okay, I know that we all have our trials and tribulations.  And everyone deserves to be loved and be given chances.  But wow, Nicole Kidman!!!  How great of an idea was it to bring a coke addict around your kids????

Angelina and Madonna: Adopting a child from Africa is great but chew on this:

why go abroad when there are so many American children waiting for someone to love them?

Children in Public Foster Care Waiting to be Adopted
FY 1999 thru FY 2003

FY 1999	FY 2000	FY 2001	FY 2002	FY 2003

128,980

130,010

129,923

125,433

119,3492

Oh wait, you don't get the publicity when you adopt from your own country. Riiiight, I get it now.

Back in time

Tomorrow, my family and I have to step back into the funeral home we used for my dad's services last year. My aunt (Dad's brother's wife) passed away on Thursday after a 3 year battle with cancer.

There is something oddly comforting about her visiting hours being in the same place. At the same time, it is scary as hell to think about going back into a place where so much sadness resides. We'll see a lot of the same family we saw there before, some of whom we haven't seen since.

When he died, I couldn't even go into the room with the casket for awhile. I kept trying to, but I would walk through the other part instead and go out into the hall to compose myself. When I finally went into the room, I couldn't go near the casket.

I never touched him while he was in the casket. The rest of the family put stuff in there, things they wanted him to have when he was buried. I couldn't. Even my pre-teen nieces and nephews were brave enough to go forward and touch him, kiss him goodbye. I couldn't come within 3 feet.

Knowing that I have to return to that place tomorrow.....I am numb.

A response to the Intimacy post from a wife

Not being a wife myself, I couldn't respond, so Wehbmaztyr's Wifey did so:

1) Yes, we are tired. We are tired because most of us work outside of the home. Then we come home to the household chores, like cooking dinner, cleaning, doing laundry, taking care of kids, making sure they did their homework and getting them in bed. Then on top of all that, after we do the dinner dishes he wants to be intimate. Well, guys if you want to play you have to help around the house more. I think most wives would even settle for a 60/40 split on the chores.

2) Cuddling is always nice, but by the time we get all the chores done you are already watching a TV show, or on line. Try stopping what you are doing to give us a little special attention. Rub our feet, give us a back message. Just hold us for a little while. But by all means, do not assume this gives you the right to start groping. We really may be too tired.

3) You are right, as a rule you should not go to bed angry. However, if you have talked, explained and pleaded with someone about something they do that is bothering you, or making you angry, or making you feel bad about yourself and they still cannot get it through their tick skulls. Well, then you don't really want to go to bed with that person.

So basically, men, you need to stop taking your wife for granted, just like we women need to appreciate our husbands. And if we both don't try to work at it, because marriage is hard work, then we should get out. There is no reason why you should cheat on your spouse. If you are to that point, wake up and realize the love is gone and you need to get out. If the love is not gone, then get up off your butt and work for it.

Jokes

A happy post, for once. :-)

---

A cabbie picks up a nun. She gets into the cab and notices that the very
handsome cab driver won't stop staring at her. She asks him why he is
staring.

He replies, "I have a question to ask you, but I don't want to offend
you."

She answers, "My son, you cannot offend me. When you're as old as
I am and have been a nun as long as I have, you get a chance to see
and hear just about everything. I'm surethat there's nothing you could
say or ask that I would find offensive."

"Well," the cabbie says, "I've always had a fantasy to have a nun kiss
me."

She responds, "Well, let's see what we can do about that. Number one,
you have to be single and number two, you must be Catholic."

The cab driver is very excited and says, "Yes, I'm single and Catholic!"

"Okay," the nun says. "Pull into the next alley." The nun fulfills his
fantasy with a passionate kiss. But when they get back on the road, the cab
driver starts crying.

"My dear child," said the nun, "why are you crying?"

"Forgive me for I have sinned. I lied and I must confess:
I'm married and I'm Jewish."

The nun says, "That's okay. My name is Kevin and I'm going to a
Halloween party."

---

A chicken farmer went to a local bar, sat next to a woman, and ordered a
glass of champagne. The woman perks up and says, "How about that? I just ordered a glass of champagne, too!"

"What a coincidence," he said, "This is a special day for me, I'm
celebrating."

"This is a special day for me, too, and I'm also celebrating!," says the
woman.

"What a coincidence," says the man. As they clinked glasses he asked, "What are you celebrating?"

"My husband and I have been trying to have a child, and today my
gynaecologist told me I'm pregnant!"

"What a coincidence," says the man. "I'm a chicken farmer. For years all my hens were infertile, but today they're finally laying fertilized eggs."

"That's great!" says the woman, "How did your chickens become fertile?"

"I switched cocks," he replied.

She smiled and said, "What a coincidence!"

---

During these serious times people of all faiths should
remember these 4 religious truths:

1. Muslims do not recognize Jews as God's chosen
people

2. Jews do not recognize Jesus as the Messiah

3. Protestants do not recognize the Pope as the leader
of the Christian world.

4. Baptists do not recognize each other at Hooters.

Intimacy is what makes a marriage, not a ceremony, not a piece of paper from the state.

- Kathleen Norris

 

And intimacy seems to be in short supply these days.  I have been hanging out in the Yahoo! chat rooms.  I have married men approaching me all day long.   Of course, once I find out they're married, I try to get them to talk about their wives and/or families. 

 

Eventually, I ask them why they're in a chat room, clearly trying to find someone with whom to fool around. The answer I almost always receive?  My wife doesn't want to play anymore. 

 

Well, to play Devil's advocate and assume the wives are to blame:

 

1. I know that you're tired.  I know that you have put the kids to bed and have worked around the house all day.  But I have to say, men express intimacy through physical contact and sex.  That's how they feel close to you.  Take that away from them, and they feel disconnected.

 

2.  If you don't want to have sex, don't just say no.  Tell him you want to cuddle first.  That might even get you in the mood.  If it doesn't, remind him that the longer you wait, the bigger the boom.

 

3.  Don't bring other issues into the bed.  If you're angry with him about something, don't take it out on the sheets.

 

I'll be the first to admit that I don't know everything about marriage.  But what I do know is that it seems like there are a lot of men straying right now.   And they consistently give me the same answer about why they're straying.  Something to think about.

 

No news is not necessarily good news

Columbus newscasts are a joke.  Yesterday there were storms all over the county and there were even talks of tornado sightings.  So, over and over this morning they showed us the damage to a new housing complex on the NE side of town.  Now, let's get some facts straight:

 

1.  Did anyone die?  Nope.

2.  Did it affect a large group of people?  Nope.

3.  Were major roads shut down?  Nope.

4.  Was there someone famous there?  Nope.

5.  Were children and/or old people harmed?  Nope.

 

Then why is this news to the other million people who live here?  Was it really necessary to have one person in the air, another on the ground and another nearby to cover this?  No.  I'm sorry that these people lost their homes, but honestly, it doesn't affect me in the same way that Katrina did.  For God's sake, why is this news???

UpDates

Sorry I haven't posted for awhile. It's been crazy-busy in Lawgirl's life.

Let's see, well, I guess we'll start in the love life....

Last Wednesday I had a date with a second guy I met off of Yahoo Chat. I'll call this guy Limp Tongue, because that's what it felt like when he kissed me. Note to men: Not EVERY kiss needs to be with tongue. It's one of those things where less is more.

Limp Tongue is a nice enough guy and he's cute, but I can't see a lasting relationship out of it. We've emailed again and talked about possibly getting together next week, but we'll see. He could be a good friend, I think, and we both are "givers" by nature. He is an Employee Assistance Program counselor at his place of employment.

Friday night, I had a date with a guy that looks exactly like the Chinese-guy wanna be in Not Another Teen Movie. He was very nice. I met him through my ad on Craig's List for The Sergeant's bike. Even at 30, he's still in the party stage, so no real connection there, but still a nice new friend. He's in purchasing at a local pharmaceutical company.

Saturday I eagerly anticipated reconnecting with Y-Guy. He showed up on Messenger at 1pm. We chatted for a few minutes, but he didn't seem very thrilled about it. I called him later on that evening and left a vm inviting him to dinner and a movie. He never called back. Okay..... Here's the thing: Everyone I talked to tried to reassure me that he probably just didn't want to hurt my feelings and tell me that he wasn't interested. Why do people think that ignoring the situation is the better plan??? It never is. Just be honest if you're not interested.

Monday I connected with a guy I'll call Hard Drive, as he fixes computers for a living. He was nice, and an excellent kisser. He's 42, divorced with 2 kids. Kind of looks like Dom Tiberi, the sportscaster, which is fine with me. He's taller than I am, about 6'1". Very nice man, very tender, and we laughed a lot together. I don't know that much will come from it, but we IM here and there.

Tuesday I met Lawguy. He was another guy from the Craig's List ad. He is also divorced with 1 kid. He's amazingly kind and generous, and not too bad in the looks department, either. We talked easily and really enjoyed each other's company. We have talked about getting together again this week, but so far it hasn't happened.

Last night I went out with a guy I'll call No Repeat. I'm calling him that, because there will not be a second date. I wasn't attracted to him at all. He thought he was God's gift and let me tell you, not at all. Sweaty, gritty, blech. And yes, if he wants to see me again, I will tell him the truth, that I'm just not interested.

Tonight I might get to stay home. :-) I definitely need to, as I'm hosting the traveling party that I have going with some friends Friday night and I need to clean the house. But I'm still having fun with the dating scene.

More updates later.....

Sorry!!

Hi all, know I haven't blogged for a week.  I've been swamped with dates and work, so just haven't had time.  Will try to post some this afternoon.

 

Thanks!!

I. Hate. Him.

So, The Sergeant was paid today and promised to give me some of the $600 he owes me. Yeah, he's giving me $100. Because, his take home was just $780 and so he needs most of that for the rent. Waaaaaaiiiiiit, he said that he used the $600 for rent. Noooooo, he confessed today that he used it to buy a bed. Niiiiice. I haven't had a new bed in years. My back hurts every day from my mattress, but he can get a new bed.

I despise him.

Nooooo, really???

Anna Nicole's Ex Files Paternity Suit

By Natalie FinnTue Oct 3, 8:36 PM ET

This time, it's paternal.

Anna Nicole Smith's disgruntled ex-boyfriend and wannabe baby daddy, Larry Birkhead, filed suit Monday against the TrimSpa spokeswoman, demanding she return to California with newborn daughter Dannielynn (a truly trashy name if I've ever seen one) Hope in tow for the baby to undergo a paternity test.

Birkhead announced his move during an interview with MSNBC's Rita Cosby, who first reported the news.

According to Cosby, Birkhead's lawsuit contains some very "damning" allegations, including the claim the model was taking methadone and that her attorney and, as it turns out, love interest, Howard K. Stern, has been facilitating her habit.

Birkhead's suit also accuses Smith of fleeing to the Bahamas to have her baby to avoid being tested for drugs. Birkhead further alleges that Stern is claiming to be Dannielynn's father for his own financial gain--and that Smith had asked a third man to claim he was the father of her child, only the plan didn't work out, because the man in question had already had a vasectomy.

Smith, who recently learned, along with the rest of the world, that her 20-year-old son, Daniel, accidentally died of a heart attack caused by a lethal combination of antidepressants and methadone, gave birth to Dannielynn Sept. 7, three days before her son's sudden death.

In his petition, Birkhead also requests Smith and her daughter undergo drug testing. According to the photographer's attorney, Debra Opri, Birkhead is seeking legal and physical custody of the child.

"The public will be very surprised when they learn the details of the lifestyle this baby is going to be faced with if she remains in the current situation," Opri said in a statement. (I seriously doubt that. If you've seen her show, you know she's a spaced-out nimrod.) She has said she will appear in Superior Court Wednesday to request a judge to order Smith's return to California.

Luckily, Smith has a lawyer on her side. Stern announced on Larry King Live last Wednesday that he is the father of Smith's baby. The couple participated in an impromptu commitment ceremony Thursday morning in the Bahamas, where they had been staying to await final pathology reports regarding Daniel's death. Radar.com reported that People bought the rights to pictures from the event for $1 million.

Potentially complicating matters is that Smith became a permanent resident of the Bahamas shortly before Dannielynn's birth. It is not known whether she renounced her U.S. citizenship, however. (How will we ever recover????) Smith is also in the midst of an ongoing legal battle over the fortune of ex-husband J. Howard Marshall II and presumably will have to come to the States at some point for related litigation.

Opri, meanwhile, called Birkhead "a first-time father" who is "responding to allegations made by [Stern]" and "believes beyond any doubt that [Birkhead] is the father."

Appearing on MSNBC Monday night, Birkhead told Cosby he is "outraged and angry" over Stern's remarks, saying the attorney was trying to "hoodwink the American public" with a story full of "inconsistencies."

"There is absolutely no way that [Stern] is the father of this child," Birkhead said. "He knows it, I know it and that's all there is to it. He challenged me on live television to get an attorney, so I have taken him up on his offer."

Everyone is entitled to be stupid, but some abuse the privilege. - Unknown

Just had another conversation with The Sergeant. 

 

He said that I had committed a crime against him when I pulled his credit report without his permission.  He also said that what I wanted to do with the insurance check (use it to pay on some bills) was illegal. 

 

I looked it up on www.lawguru.com and since I had a specific reason as to why I was pulling his credit report (to see if I could transfer the bike into his name) it's not illegal.  Also, you can do whatever you want with insurance money.  You're entitled to it and it's up to you if you get whatever was damaged fixed.

 

Then he went on to say that the big problem in our relationship was my temper.  I said, gee, I wonder why I was so mad all of the time???

Moving on

Elaine:  I met this lawyer, we went out to dinner, I had the lobster bisque, we went back to my place, yada yada yada, I never heard from him again.

Jerry: But you yada yada'd over the best part.

So, I went on a date last night.  I had met this guy online on Saturday.  Yes, I know what you're all thinking:  Lawgirl, are you crazy???? Why would you continue to meet men online after two bad experiences??? 

Well, the truth is, there's not a great way for me to meet them otherwise. I don't like bars, my friends don't have friends to whom to introduce me, most of the men I work with I wouldn't date....so there are few options for me otherwise. 

I went into the Ohio chat room on Yahoo Saturday night and met a man I'll nickname Y-Guy (short for Yahoo Guy).  Y-Guy and I chatted online and on the phone from 6:30pm until 3:30 am.  He wanted to take me out to dinner Saturday night, but I said no.  First of all, we'd just met online.  Second of all, I know the rules.  You don't accept a date for Saturday ON Saturday. 

He didn't get up until about 4pm on Sunday.  I was up off and on before that.  He IM'd me and again asked if he could buy me dinner.  I finally said, let's meet for coffee and go Dutch, so that there's no pressure on either side.  So, we met at Panera and then went for a walk in the park.  It was very nice.

After our walk, we went back to the parking lot and hung out in his car and talked, yada yada yada. After my mom called a 2nd time to try and tell me good night, we said goodbye at 9:30.

He is a machinist and works from 4pm to 3am M-Th and then 4pm to midnight on Fridays. So, we won't be able to date during the week at all.  He has already asked if we can see each other this coming weekend and I've agreed.  He seems very nice, but then so did e-Harmony Guy and The Sergeant, so I'm taking this slow. I've explained it to him and he seems fine with it. 

Y-Guy is 37, never married, no kids.  He is just like the tortoise - slow and steady wins the race.  He says that he's good with money - saved enough to take 1.5 years off of work a couple of years back.  He lives with his parents, as his dad is in a wheelchair and he helps out with everything.  He does want to buy a house, one with room to build a workshop so that he can tinker with his ideas for various inventions.

He even meets my wish of being with a farmer, as his family owns a far in IL and he lived on that for a time and helped work it.  He has lived in the same suburb his entire life. 

So, we'll see.  In any case, it's a nice distraction from everything else.  Oh, and that now includes my first accident where I'm the cause.  I rear-ended a guy yesterday.  No damage to my car and scraped the paint on his trunk.  The bad luck streak continues in some way.

New show review

Heroes: The best pilot of the season. I really loved this show. It has a touch of Six Degrees, in the way that all of the people who find out they have special powers are connected, even though they don't know it yet. The cast is fabulous: Milo Ventimiglia (Gilmore Girls, American Dreams), Adrian Pasdar, Ali Larter (Final Destinations 1 & 2, Legally Blonde). If you think you can only fit in one new show this season, this is the one.

BTW, I had the TiVo set to tape Ugly Betty, but for some reason it didn't, so that's why there's no review of that. Heard good things about it.